WHAT IS A DOULA?
The word Doula comes from Greek, meaning woman-servant; the term was originally used to refer to a woman, typically a family member or friend, who assisted another woman during labor and birth. The practice of women helping other women in labor is as old as humanity and crosses cultures far and wide, because it is intuitive.
With advancements in modern medicine and a switch to a primarily medical-model of birth, especially in Western society, the practice of having female friends and kinfolk attending births has gone by the wayside. Nowadays, you can’t just bring six of your closest gal pals, your aunt, your mom, and grandma Ethel into the maternity ward with you and call them doulas. If you are birthing in a hospital, there are restrictions for who and how many people are allowed in the delivery room. And even if not in-hospital, most women are no longer keen on a communal birth, because that’s just not what we are used to in our modern lives. However, there is a middle-ground between an attendance of strictly medical personnel or a gaggle of your aunts. The compromise is hiring a person whose job it is to be both proficient and comforting to join you for the momentous event of giving birth. That person is a professional doula.
The word doula has changed to generally refer to a professional support person who assists people during delicate transitions in their lives. The most widely known type of doula is a labor or birth doula, but there are also doulas for other major life transitions such as: postpartum, antepartum (for high risk pregnancies), abortion, miscarriage, adoption, and death. At the core of every doula’s practice is compassion. Their purpose is to give care. They are there for their clients emotionally and physically: teaching, coaching, calming, soothing, listening, and even advocating for their clients if needed.
While doulas are very well-educated in the medical aspects of their chosen specialties, they are not medical professionals. They will not give medical advice or practice medicine in any way. However, they will help you understand medical information if you need it, and they may help you communicate with medical staff if you want them to. They are by your side to fill in the gaps between the medical staff and your loved ones. Doctors, nurses, and midwives provide you medical care, your family and friends offer you their love as always, and a doula builds a bridge between these two worlds with knowledge, empathy, consistency, and strength.
What many people don’t know is that a doula is not there only to support the person going through the transitional life event, but also to support the partner and family of that person. A birth doula spends much of their time encouraging birth partners and giving them tools to help the laboring mother. Many birth partners feel overwhelmed if they have never been by the side of a laboring woman before, and they sometimes feel helpless while seeing their partner in discomfort or pain that they can’t “fix”. Doulas help give the birth partner confidence in their ability to support as well. That may be as simple as some encouraging words, or it could be suggesting how to massage their laboring partner, recommending they help their laboring partner change positions, or reminding them to hydrate and take care of themselves as well. It can be easy to feel at a loss as a birth partner, but a doula acts as an anchor in a storm, grounding all involved so they don’t feel so out of control. A doula does not replace a birth partner, but rather complements them to create a solid support team which is the best scaffolding for a positive birth experience.
You make the World Go 'Round
Here at Cincinnati Birth and Parenting Doula Agency, we see, honor, and celebrate mothers and partners every day of the year!
We are constantly in awe of all that Mothers and birthing people go through. As mothers we are not only expected to survive, but to thrive and to raise these little people who have completely changed us on the inside and out.
No pressure, right?
Some of us go through hell and high water to get pregnant in the first place or we jump through hundreds of hoops to adopt our children. We sometimes spend years of heart ache and thousands of dollars to have a child.
We grow these little people in our hearts, minds, and in our bodies. This part is still crazy to me and I've done it several times and see it all the time.
And then, so many of us endear hours of labor, eventually pushing our babies out into the world...while others of us go through major abdominal surgery in order to meet our babies.
When it comes time to meet our baby, we literally and figuratively say, ''I'll do whatever I have to do. I just want my baby to be okay.''
And then, the real fun begins...
We love them. We lose sleep for them. We question our own existence. We often go through blood, sweat, and tears to feed them. We worry about them. We stay home with them through flu season to keep them safe. We take them places to expand their world view. We spend our money on them.
We do. We do. We do.
We love them. We love them. We love them.
And for that, we all deserve on Mother's Day and every day of the year.
A special shout-out to:
Mothers who go through hell and high water to have a baby.
Mothers who are parenting without a partner.
Mothers who adopt their children.
Mothers who've love and lost their children.
Mothers without family nearby.
Mothers who don't identify as women.
Mothers who've experienced a traumatic birth or postpartum.
Mothers who have experienced Postpartum Mood Disorder.
Mothers who are mothering without a mother.
Mothers who are just getting by.
We see, honor, and celebrate each and every one of you.
Written By: Molly Murray
Molly Murray is the owner and founder of Cincinnati Birth and Parenting. Molly has been passionately serving families as a birth and postpartum doula in Cincinnati and N. Kentucky since 2012.
Who are we?
Cincinnati Birth and Parenting, LLC was founded by Molly Murray, a birth and postpartum doula and childbirth educator. Through this growing company, Molly connects parents with information, resources, and support while also staying committed to building up fellow professionals and connecting them with the people who need their services most.
Serving Cincinnati and Northern Kentucky including: Alexandria, Amberley Village, Bellevue, Blue Ash, Burlington, Centerville, Cheviot, Clifton, Cold Spring, Colerain Township, Columbia Tusulum, Covington, Crescent Springs, Delhi, Dry Ridge, Edgewood, Elsmere, Erlanger, Florence, Ft. Mitchell, Ft Thomas, Ft Wright, Green Township, Hamilton, Harrison, Hebron, Hyde Park, Independence, Kenwood, Loveland, Madeira, Madisonville, Mariemont , Mason, Middletown, Milford, Montgomery, Mt Adams, Mt Healthy, Mt Lookout, Newport, Northside, Oakley, OTR, Park Hills, Pleasant Ridge, Sharonville, Springboro, Union, West Chester, Wilder and all cities and neighborhoods within 1 hour radius of Cincinnati, OH as well as providing virtual support worldwide.
SUPPORTING FAMILIES IN: natural birth, epidural birth, cesarean birth, induction, gentle or family centered cesarean birth, multiples, VBAC, water birth, attachment parenting, babywearing, breastfeeding, bottle feeding and more.
Experienced with many birthing philosophies such as: Birthing From within, Bradley Method, Hypnobabies, Hypnobirthing, Lamaze, etc.
Cincinnati Birth and Parenting, LLC prides itself on continually working to be a diverse, inclusive, accepting, welcoming, safe space for everyone.